Online romance/dating have been and are still currently considered as a convenient and legit way of seeking potential partners in life, even during this time of Covid 19 pandemic. As a matter of fact, this is even better now as seekers and daters may find more time to check and investigate on the background of their preferred potential partners during this pandemic, and choose the right one for them. However, caution should still be exercised in the selection process to avoid bumping into someone, similar to the situation experienced by a pretty young urban professional who found her dream romance on the web but failed in the end. Hereunder is the true to life story:
For confidentiality reasons, let’s call the main characters, “Brad” and “Angelina”.
To raise awareness about online romance in social networking sites;
To provide tips and thoughts on how to survive after a failed marriage; and
To prevent others from experiencing similarly situated cases in the future
Social networking sites are sources to millions of people worldwide for anything, e.g. business, job search, love, marriage, as in name it, you got it! It was here that Angelina, a pretty, single and young urban professional Filipina in her late 20’s met her husband Brad, an Australian of her age group, good looking and with a “charismatic air”.
In social networking sites, Facebook for instance, a person can easily make friends with people he/she doesn’t even know. That’s how the love and friendship of Angelina and Brad started. They befriended each other, video chatted and shared experiences and eventually fell in love before they met in person. After a few months, the said love blossomed into a husband and wife relationship; they got married in Manila sans church blessings. Angelina left the Philippines to join his husband who was an expatriate (expat) in Hongkong. It was here and at the early stage of their marriage the problem began.
The first week in her husband’s place was like “heaven on the 7th floor”! Everything was just about perfect, making the honeymoon stage more exciting and wonderful. They had the best of dreams for each other, the best of promises as in giving her the moon and the stars, the undying love and the best of everything, so to speak!
However, only after a month of living together, Angelina’s “starry eyes” turned into “teary eyes”. Brad started to display the “real him”, showing tantrums when he’s pissed off even in minute details. It may be normal and understandable for some people to feel and act like Brad particularly that getting married and living with someone so suddenly may pose a major adjustment. During this phase of marriage, both husband and wife are still in the process of getting to know each other fully well and learning to embrace each other’s personal space and norms, but getting mad unreasonably is another story.
Angelina on her part, tried very much to understand Brad’s actions and learned to persevere just like a typical loving and caring Filipina. There were times though that Brad acted as a super “hero” to her, as in supporting and comforting her even to the extent of cooking and serving her with delicious meals, and spending with her memorable moments. But during the times that he’s not in good mood, he turned nasty to her. Such action was just crazy and unthinkable to her, particularly that they were still in their honeymoon phase.
When I asked Angelina about what happened, why did their love for each other turned sour after such a very brief period of being together, she replied that it was actually Brad’s heart which changed overnight. The flame of love fizzled just like that, leaving Angelina feeling depressed causing her great angst. Regardless of what happened, Angelina was and in fact is still currently in love with Brad.
Despite her effort to save the marriage, it didn’t work out. Brad had finally decided to leave her and end the relationship so cruelly, after a couple of months of marriage. Her world suddenly spun, her dreams were shattered.
It is true that every relationship has ups and downs, much more for husbands and wives. But these ups and downs are in fact what life is all about and that make it worth living. Husbands and wives should be able to deal with domestic drudgery including the hashing out of practicalities of life. A lot of patience and perseverance are needed to understand the intricacies of marriage.
While online relationships worked for some, it didn’t pay off for others. Brad and Angelina’s case was a classic example of a love affair that emanated on the Web which failed.
What made Angelina and Brad’s relationship turned so sour quickly? How did they end up in separation. What were the factors that affected their relationship?
Feel free to sit back, relax and wait for the Part 2 of this blog for more.
Have a great day everyone!