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The Online Romance of “Brad and Angelina”: Tips and Thoughts

Online romance/dating have been and are still currently considered as a convenient and legit way of seeking potential partners in life, even during this time of Covid 19 pandemic. As a matter of fact, this is even better now as seekers and daters may find more time to check and investigate on the background of their preferred potential partners during this pandemic, and choose the right one for them. However, caution should still be exercised in the selection process to avoid bumping into someone, similar to the situation experienced by a pretty young urban professional who found her dream romance on the web but failed in the end. Hereunder is the true to life story:

For confidentiality reasons, let’s call the main characters, “Brad” and “Angelina”.

Objectives:
To raise awareness about online romance in social networking sites;
To provide tips and thoughts on how to survive after a failed marriage; and
To prevent others from experiencing similarly situated cases in the future

Overview:
Social networking sites are sources to millions of people worldwide for anything, e.g. business, job search, love, marriage, as in name it, you got it! It was here that Angelina, a pretty, single and young urban professional Filipina in her late 20’s met her husband Brad, an Australian of her age group, good looking and with a “charismatic air”.

In social networking sites, Facebook for instance, a person can easily make friends with people he/she doesn’t even know. That’s how the love and friendship of Angelina and Brad started. They befriended each other, video chatted and shared experiences and eventually fell in love before they met in person. After a few months, the said love blossomed into a husband and wife relationship; they got married in Manila sans church blessings. Angelina left the Philippines to join his husband who was an expatriate (expat) in Hongkong. It was here and at the early stage of their marriage the problem began.

The first week in her husband’s place was like “heaven on the 7th floor”! Everything was just about perfect, making the honeymoon stage more exciting and wonderful. They had the best of dreams for each other, the best of promises as in giving her the moon and the stars, the undying love and the best of everything, so to speak!

However, only after a month of living together, Angelina’s “starry eyes” turned into “teary eyes”. Brad started to display the “real him”, showing tantrums when he’s pissed off even in minute details. It may be normal and understandable for some people to feel and act like Brad particularly that getting married and living with someone so suddenly may pose a major adjustment. During this phase of marriage, both husband and wife are still in the process of getting to know each other fully well and learning to embrace each other’s personal space and norms, but getting mad unreasonably is another story.

Angelina on her part, tried very much to understand Brad’s actions and learned to persevere just like a typical loving and caring Filipina. There were times though that Brad acted as a super “hero” to her, as in supporting and comforting her even to the extent of cooking and serving her with delicious meals, and spending with her memorable moments. But during the times that he’s not in good mood, he turned nasty to her. Such action was just crazy and unthinkable to her, particularly that they were still in their honeymoon phase.

When I asked Angelina about what happened, why did their love for each other turned sour after such a very brief period of being together, she replied that it was actually Brad’s heart which changed overnight. The flame of love fizzled just like that, leaving Angelina feeling depressed causing her great angst. Regardless of what happened, Angelina was and in fact is still currently in love with Brad.

Despite her effort to save the marriage, it didn’t work out. Brad had finally decided to leave her and end the relationship so cruelly, after a couple of months of marriage. Her world suddenly spun, her dreams were shattered.

Comments:

It is true that every relationship has ups and downs, much more for husbands and wives. But these ups and downs are in fact what life is all about and that make it worth living. Husbands and wives should be able to deal with domestic drudgery including the hashing out of practicalities of life. A lot of patience and perseverance are needed to understand the intricacies of marriage.

While online relationships worked for some, it didn’t pay off for others. Brad and Angelina’s case was a classic example of a love affair that emanated on the Web which failed.

What made Angelina and Brad’s relationship turned so sour quickly? How did they end up in separation. What were the factors that affected their relationship?

Feel free to sit back, relax and wait for the Part 2 of this blog for more.

Have a great day everyone!

(republished and updated)

15 responses to “The Online Romance of “Brad and Angelina”: Tips and Thoughts”

  1. Mj says:

    Love On Line happens everywhere. It’s really a sad story for Brad and Angelina tho!

    To Angelina..

    If Brad refuses to look at you in a new light and he only sees you for who you are/were, only sees you for the mistakes you’ve made, and if he doesn’t realize that you are not your mistakes, then let him go. There are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it. Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do and have power over it, instead of craving control over what you don’t.

    Your spirit was tested with unimaginable hardships yet you survived. Kudos to that! Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness. Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on.

  2. wennie says:

    Sometimes love hurts! For me, it is better to be alone than to have a partner who appears wonderful but violent when upset. At first, Brad seems so manly, but in the long run his attitude changed when they were living together, but despite his flaws Angelina still loves her man. As a wife, she wants to patch up their marriage life. Nobody wants to have a broken family. But with the kind of a husband’s attitude like that of Brad, I don’t think he deserves to be loved by a wife! Thank you for your wonderful column Myusefultips, i really appreciate it. More power and more blessings to you from God!

  3. Wendell says:

    Hi there, I dont want to make a conclusion on why the relationship of the subject couple did not end well. Is it always the man’s fault? Why dont you look at the woman’s side. What were her shortcomings? She might have done wrong too….
    Very cool site!! Thank you for sharing. . . . . .

  4. Liza says:

    As the saying goes, it takes two to tango! A one-way relationship would be miserable for the person who exerts to much effort to make the relationship work. As to the case of Brad and Angelina, there appears something weird with the behavioral patterns of the parties concerned. It seems from the very start, there was something wrong with their relaionship. Guess, one of them knew about it!

  5. Kerry says:

    It was better for both of them to discover each other’s idiosyncrasies at an early stage. Marriage doesn’t work up to one’s last breath, sometimes. PTҺanks!

  6. Humberto says:

    Men normally think twice before hurting his partner. But there are instances when men hurt women instantly out of anger or jealousy. But in this case, what the man did was certainly a “goodbye” for good.

    Maybe there’s no point of making an effort of getting back together.

    Thanks!

  7. Donna says:

    There are relationships that don’t work anymore particularly if one of the parties has lost love and interest over the other. Love and respect should be the foundation of a strong relationship. God should be the center of marriage life.

    There is nothing wrong for “troubled” couples making an extra effort to talk about the problem as there could be great chance of putting back the relationship on track. There are spiritual directors, marriage counselors and experts who can effectively help couples decipher which course of action to take that would benefit not only for husbands and wives but for their kids as well, if any.

  8. Alison says:

    Excellent! This is another love happening over the web. Your blog givеs helpful fɑcts to us, kеep іt up.

  9. Corrine says:

    It is not entertaining anymore to read melancholic stories such as husband and wife with no love for each other anymore, much more if the woman is left behind because of a third party. Hate it, so sad!

  10. LaraLatashia says:

    When I saw your article on the Internet, I thought it was a happy story, a fantasy like a fairy tale. I was frustrated to learn what happened to their love story. It turned out to be discriminating to women, regardless of race and nationality. Men like the one in the story should never be loved at all.

  11. Colin says:

    I am a man in my 60″s and experienced. There are so many sex and romance stories published on the web but yours made me read it. Leave the man, that’s all I can say.

  12. Lawrence Llamas says:

    The man is a jerk! Tell Angelina to shoot me an email.

  13. charolette Gloeckner says:

    Their romance is mind boggling. It’s nearly impossible for a man to just leave like that, unless he really doesn’t have even a tinge of love to the woman. Crazy guy! Thanks

  14. Delores says:

    I find your article interesting! Keep up the good work!

  15. Woodly AnActivist says:

    You are so interesting! You have covered so many things that aren’t trash but original thoughts on the subject! Thanks really, it helps a lot!

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